Community. Love. Purpose.

The Man Cave

A brotherhood for men of color and Indigenous men. Live and virtual every week. A room where we put the armor down, tell the truth, and get back to work on ourselves, together.

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The room

Most men carry it alone. You don't have to.

Men of color and Indigenous men are taught early to hold the weight quietly: for family, for work, for everyone watching. The Man Cave is the place where that weight gets named out loud, among men who understand it without needing it explained.

Each week we gather in the Cave. We check in with the body, not just the mind. We speak from the chest, listen without fixing, and hold each other to what we said we would do. No performance. No posturing. Just brothers doing the inner work.

A steady fire, tended every week, wherever you are.

A grid of TMC brothers on a video call, arms open wide during a breathing practice — Live & virtualTuesday gatherings and Friday Tending to Our Temple calls happen live on video. Join from home, the office, or the road, and still be fully in the room.

Tuesdays · 11 am CT
Virtual

The weekly gathering

The heart of Cave and Mountain membership, live on video. Check-in, open floor, and one real commitment you carry out of the room and report back on next week.

Fridays
Virtual

Tending to Our Temple

The Friday virtual wellness tune-up for men with fitness, nutrition, and wellness goals.

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Next date soon
In person

The Leadership Retreat

The one time we step off the screen and into the same space. Deeper work, fire circles, and brotherhood you can feel in person.

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From the brothers

What men say about the room.

“I walked in guarded and walked out feeling like I could breathe again.”

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“TMC helped me get more focused in my business. I stopped spinning my wheels, made clearer decisions, and started operating with a real plan.”

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“What I learned at TMC changed how I show up with my partner. I became more present, communicated better, and stopped bringing the stress from work into our relationship.”

TMC member

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Men flexing and celebrating together indoors

Men laughing together by the fire at night

Your seat is waiting

Pull up a chair by the fire.

Start with a short intro call. If it’s a fit, you can join us for any of the calls.

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About TMC

A room built by brothers, for brothers.

The Man Cave is a weekly, membership-based brotherhood for men of color and Indigenous men. It exists so no man has to do his inner work alone.

Why it exists

Strength was never meant to be carried alone.

Men of color and Indigenous men are taught early to hold the weight quietly: for family, for work, for everyone watching. Over time that silence costs us our health, our relationships, and our sense of who we really are.

The Man Cave is the place where that weight gets named out loud, among men who understand it without needing it explained. We check in with the body, not just the mind. We speak from the chest, listen without fixing, and hold each other to what we said we would do.

The room is shaped by somatic practice and breathwork, and by a simple belief: I'm not the leader. We all are. Every man who sits in the Cave helps hold it.

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In his words

There’s something different about sitting with men who are willing to be completely honest.

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Who it's for

Built for the man who is ready to be seen.

This room is for you if

You are a man of color or an Indigenous man who is tired of carrying everything alone.
You want brothers who will call you higher, not just agree with you.
You are willing to feel what is underneath before you act on it.
You can show up weekly and keep what is shared inside the room.

It is not the right fit if

You are in crisis and need clinical care right now.
You plan to never participate.
Confidentiality is something you would treat lightly.

TMC brothers in a tight huddle, arms around one another — I'm not the leader. We all are.
Every man holds the room

From the brothers

I came looking for clarity. I found honesty first, and the clarity followed.

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Offerings

Three ways into the work.

Join the weekly brotherhood, go further with private coaching, or step away with us on retreat.

Offering 01Month to month

Cave Membership

$50/ month

The heart of TMC. Your seat in the weekly brotherhood and everything that comes with it.

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The weekly gatheringTuesdays at 11 am CT, live and virtual, every week.
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Tending to Our TempleThe Friday virtual wellness tune-up for men with fitness, nutrition, and wellness goals.
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Community Breath accessMember pricing on the monthly breathwork session.
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First access to the retreatMembers hear first when retreat seats open, with early bird pricing.
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A signed membership agreementClear agreements on confidentiality and how we hold each other.

Join the Cave

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Offering 026-month agreement

Mountain Membership

$400/ month

For men who want to become the highest-caliber version of themselves, with private, high-level tuning built around them.

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Everything in Cave MembershipThe weekly gathering, Tending to Our Temple, Community Breath pricing, and first access to the retreat.
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Two 60-minute 1:1 sessions a monthPrivate coaching with Smit, focused on your goals and your edge.
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A personal pathThe work in the Cave and the work in your sessions build on each other.

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Offering 03Coming soon

The Retreat

Next date
coming soon

A residential leadership intensive for men of color and Indigenous men. Lodging, meals, breathwork, fire circles, and deep group work, away from the noise.

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Members hear firstCave and Mountain members get early notice and early bird pricing.
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Application and interviewEvery man is interviewed to protect the room.

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Inside the Cave

No performance. No judgment. Just men telling the truth and helping each other move forward.

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Why coaching with Smit

Once a month, you get a breakthrough. Twice a month, you become the man who lives it.

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The Mountain Membership is for the man ready to go further. You get everything in the Cave plus two 60-minute 1:1 sessions with me each month: the breakthrough, two weeks to live it, then a return to refine it before old patterns take over.

Brotherhood around you, and someone in your corner holding you to the man you're becoming.

Smit

Side by side

Choose your membership.

	Cave	Mountain
Weekly virtual gathering, Tuesdays 11 am CT	Included	Included
Tending to Our Temple, Fridays (virtual)	Included	Included
Community Breath member pricing	Included	Included
First access to the retreat	Included	Included
1:1 coaching with Smit	Not included	Two 60-min sessions a month
Commitment	Month to month	6 months
Investment	$50 / month	$400 / month

TMC Standards & Agreements

How we hold the room.

Every man in The Man Cave agrees to these five standards. They are what make the room safe enough to be honest in.

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Be fully present
Be present with your speaking, your listening, and your being.
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Lead with your truth
Remove the mask. No performances.
“The biggest shift was realizing I didn’t have to perform. I could just be honest.”
TMC member
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Confidentiality
Honor what is shared by the other men in the community. What's learned here leaves here, and what's shared here stays here.
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Empathy & safety
Own your role in creating an environment that is safe, accepting, and empathetic to the community.
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We have fun too
This is a space for connection, community, and exploration, and with that, we remember not to take it to the point where it destroys us from the inside out.

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Men holding one another around a night fire

Every member signs a membership agreement built on these standards.

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Questions

Before you walk in.

The things men usually ask before their first week in the Cave.

Is this therapy?

No. The Cave is a brotherhood: a space for connection, community, and exploration. It is not coaching, therapy, or consulting, and it is not a replacement for clinical or mental health care. Men who want private coaching can add it through Mountain Membership.

Where do we meet?

Online. The Tuesday gathering and the Friday Tending to Our Temple call are both live and virtual, so you can join from anywhere. The retreat is when we gather in person.

What actually happens on a Tuesday?

We open with breath and a body check-in, move into an open floor where men bring what is real, and close with commitments. You speak when you are ready. Nobody is put on the spot.

What's the difference between Cave and Mountain?

Cave is the weekly brotherhood, month to month. Mountain includes everything in Cave plus two 60-minute 1:1 coaching sessions with Smit each month, on a 6-month agreement.

“There was no pressure to have the right answer. That made it easier to finally say what was actually going on.”

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Why is it only for men of color and Indigenous men?

We don't sit around and talk about the color of our skin. We do the same deep work any men's group does. The difference is that this is a sacred space for men of color and Indigenous men, where you never have to explain or translate your experience before you can go deep. A separate virtual men's group open to all men is being planned.

What if I miss a week?

Life happens. The room holds your seat. Members who stay consistent tend to get the most from it, so we ask for your best effort at showing up.

When is the next retreat?

The next date is coming soon. Cave and Mountain members hear first and get early bird pricing.

I know a man who needs this. Can I send him?

Yes, please. Brotherhood grows through trust. Send him to this site and have him mention your name on the contact form.

Contact

Pull up a chair by the fire.

Tell us a little about you. We will reach out personally to set up a short intro call.

“You don’t have to show up polished. You just have to show up.”

TMC member

A facilitator speaking to men gathered outdoors

Most men carry it alone. You don't have to.

A steady fire, tended every week, wherever you are.

The weekly gathering

Tending to Our Temple

The Leadership Retreat

What men say about the room.

Pull up a chair by the fire.

Strength was never meant to be carried alone.

Built for the man who is ready to be seen.

This room is for you if

It is not the right fit if

Cave Membership

Mountain Membership

The Retreat

Once a month, you get a breakthrough. Twice a month, you become the man who lives it.

Choose your membership.

Be fully present

Lead with your truth

Confidentiality

Empathy & safety

We have fun too

Pull up a chair by the fire.